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Part 2 of 4: Exiles, managers, and firefighters. None of them is the foundation. Once you begin to notice your parts, it helps to have names for the ones that keep showing up. IFS uses three main names. You don’t have to love the labels. But it does help to stop mistaking any of these …
Part 1 of 4: The image of God, what IFS is, and what trauma does to God’s likeness in us You can love someone and want to leave the room in the same minute. You can want to pray and not be able to sit still long enough to do it. You can believe God …
Here’s a clear, practical guide to choosing a trauma therapist. What to prioritize Helpful details to check Red flags Good questions to ask during a free consult or first session How to find and vet candidates What early progress can look like If you’re currently in crisis in the U.S. Bottom lineLook for a clinician …
Being needed kept me safe once.Being needed is what crushed me later. Those two sentences used to live in different rooms of my life. I could tell the first story without flinching. I was the oldest. I learned early that usefulness was a kind of shelter. If I anticipated the next crisis, absorbed the next …
If you need help right now, you do not have to sort through a list first. This page is a directory, not therapy and not a substitute for emergency care. Crisis and same-day help 988 Suicide and Crisis LifelineCall or text 988. You do not have to be in a suicide crisis to use it. …
A lot of Christians hear “Self” and brace. We have been taught that self is the problem: self-will, self-love, the old man who must be crucified. Then someone offers Internal Family Systems, a therapy model that talks about parts of you and a core Self that can lead them, and it can sound like the …
Internal Family Systems starts with a simple claim that many people feel before they can name it. You are not one single voice. You are a system. There is the part that keeps the calendar tight and the house in order. The part that goes blank in conflict. The part that snaps when it has …
I did not come to Internal Family Systems because it was trendy. I came because insight was not enough. I could name the patterns. I could explain the family system. I could even coach other people toward change. Inside, parts of me were still braced, still scanning, still trying to keep the old pain from …